What is the most efficient/effective way to ensure that gay men and lesbian women are able to get married legally anywhere in America with all the rights, responsibilities and benefits that heterosexual couples are afforded?
I don't care at all about political ideological consistency, I care that people are not systematically discriminated against in my country. I would feel the same way about slave's rights, about women's right to vote, about rights of blacks to drink from the same water fountains or attend the same schools as whites.
I fully understand that there is an opposing view - many people believe that gays should not have the right to marry. Perhaps that is the debate we could, and should, have (after all, everything else is a smokescreen, this is all that really matters in this discussion).
There are a few things I disagree with:
1. Equating not creating SSM with abolishing slavery.
2. Saying that we should have the debate - the whole point of judicial action like we saw in MA and may see at the SC is to AVOID debate. This is short sighted in my opinion, because it will turn an issue that is becoming mainstream accepted (SSM) and make it more divisive.
3. That just because this is a good (not proven, but I'll concede here for the bigger point) we should get to it as efficient as possible.
On number 3 - you might want to have some humility yourself. It's easy to lambast Jefferson now (or Washington too.) Even Adams a committed abolitionist agreed to the grand compromise of slavery as a state issue in order to ensure the union. But its completely without context to say they didn't do enough. Every little freedom you have today comes from what these men did. Sorry they didn't meet your scorecard for perfection, but seriously what have you done that you can criticize the epically large contributions of the founders? You might also have some humility to understand that these men were experts on freedoms and political economy, and bestowed a unique gift of constitutional republic for us. And that gift is the root cause for the posterity you see today.
If their is to be rule of law, then there must be rule of law. A good constitutional ruling from the SC with a bad political outcome for me is much better IMO than a bad ruling with a good political outcome. This is the exact mentality I see arising across the liberal/progressive spectrum of the left, its utopianism at its core, and it's poison sooner or later, regardless of how sweet the first drips are.
I am certain that Jefferson was brilliant and I know that the founders created something I couldn't have come close to creating. They were concerned about forming a more perfect union, and my statements don't point out mild imperfections but a few pretty grand ones. Could I have done better? Of course not. I also criticize Celtics players and I am equally certain I am not as good as any of them.
Jefferson and other founders were in my corner from the beginning (I am white and male). He (not alone obviously) created something great, but note that every freedom I enjoy was not afforded to all Americans and it took a hellacious civil war, not the constitution, to resolve the country's most horrific freedom issue. I apologize if I seemed like I think I am smarter than they were (I don't at all), or if I seemed like I think I have contributed more to the world than our founders (I know that I haven't).
I also didn't equate the the plight of gays to the plight of slaves - you did. Wrong certainly has gradations (gay discrimination is not on the same playing field as slavery), but wrong is still wrong (reminder: wrong to me, not asserting biblical wrong here).
Lastly, something that is discriminatory should absolutely be addressed efficiently. Not sure I understand the value system that would be OK with inefficiently addressing discrimination.